I can't quite remember the last time I was alone on my birthday.
It was probably about 7-8 years ago, maybe. Can't really say. I remember once many many years ago, I was home alone. The next day was a Hindi exam- mid-terms I presume. I couldn't be taken out for dinner, naturally, as the paper beckoned. That's what we usually did- went out for dinner as a family. Rarely did we have parties (big or otherwise); the four of us just went out for Indian or Chinese or, in the earlier days, Nirula's. So this one birthday I had an exam, my parents had a rare dinner to go for and my brother was either out or had moved out (to b-school?) by then.
So it was just me, the occasional call, some boring Hindi studying, some minor self pity.
Today (the clocks tell me I mean yesterday but I have always told people its their birthday not just till 12, but till the are asleep) has been different. I went to work, where only one person knew it was my birthday, and that was fine by me. I got sms wishes and facebook wishes (not quite the crazy deluge because my FB profile does not show my birth date) and a few phone calls. I got one or two tentative queries whether there was a plan the evening. I hadn't made one, so there wasn't. Office largely emptied, I continued to do more work than I needed impendingly to do, replies to emails and facebook bits. I left, got myself a subway and came home to watch the cricket match(es). [Let's not go there, long story, thrilling but tragic end]. I stayed home, had a drink, ate, had many happy birthday conversations.
Does it sound a bit lonely and a bit sad? But I don't mean it to, because I wasn't and it wasn't. All through, D-who is away on work- sent me joy and smiles and song. She was, and is, freakishly busy, but managed to make me smile not just a few times but through the day, and on the inside.
What about wild, drunken celebrations, you say? We'll have a chance for that soon enough!